Love and Marriage -> Part 4 ~ The Better Half

This post marks the end of the notes I took while listening to this series. I know that I for sure learned a lot and was challenged a lot by the things that Voddie had to say. If you want to listen to these sermons yourself, the link is:

http://www.722.org/flash/722.html

If you have the time and the interest, then please listen to the four messages I have written about, because my notes don't do any justice to what a great, funny and intelligent speaker Voddie Bachaum really is. I hope you have enjoyed reading about this series and are able to learn something from it, I know I sure did. Enjoy Part 4!


~Ephesians 5:22-24
~She must be submissive

~When there is a difference between the culture and God, let God be true and every man a liar

~Colossians 3:18
~1 Peter 3:1-6

~Submission is about order, not about value
~Men and woman have different functions, and different roles

~Submission is voluntary
~The word literally means to voluntarily rank oneself below another

~Genesis 3 "The Fall"
~What happened in the fall was about order
~Adam and Eve flipped the order upside down because he did not exercise headship

~Romans 5:12
~It reads "threw one man" not "threw one couple"

~She must be submissive to the Lord

~The smallest division in the Bible is the paragraph, not the verse or chapter numbers, so sometimes in order fully understand the context of the scripture we have to go back verses

Ephesians 5:15-22 (In order to understand Vs. 22, you have to go back to the beginning of Vs.15)
~3 contrasts, 3 commands, 3 contexts

~3 contrasts:
~Vs. 15 -> Don't be unwise but wise
~Vs.17 -> Don't be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is
~Vs.18 -> Do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the spirit

~3 commands:
~Vs.19 -> Speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord (Be a worshipper)
~Vs.20 -> Always giving thanks for all things (Be prayerfully thankful)
~Vs.21 -> Be subject to one another in the fear of Christ

~Yield yourself to the spirit of God

~3 contexts:
~Wives to husband
~Children to parents
~Servants to masters

~She must submit to proper Biblical authority
~If you want to know if somebody is actually submitting to the Lord Jesus Christ, look into their life and ask this question, are they submitting to the proper authority that God has placed in their life? In other words show me a woman who is not submissive and I will show you a woman who is probably not walking with God

~The text says wives submit to your husbands not girlfriends submit to your boyfriends
~The Bible does not even acknowledge the role of boyfriends and girlfriends, it is an unbiblical concept

~Until you are married ladies, you should be biblically submitting to your fathers
~If your first response is to look for loopholes, then you don't get it.
~Biblical submission doesn't look for loopholes. Biblical submission is just submission
~Even if your father is not a Christian, you still honor him, respect him, and submit to him
~Men should look at the way a woman submits to her parents
~When you establish your family you are going to want kids who submit to you as parents in the Biblical model, but you have to submit to your parents
~Ephesians 6:1-3
~ "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother" - which is the first commandment with a promise - "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.""

~It is not about value, it's about order and Biblical headship
~She must be submissive to Christ and to the authority that Christ has placed over her
~If she is not than that is a character issue

~She must be submissive to the Biblical view/portrait of marriage
~It gives you priorities

~Titus 2:3-5
~Not malicious gossips
~Not enslaved to much wine
~To encourage the younger woman
~Teaching what is good
~To be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind
~Being subject to their own husbands so that the word of God will not be dishonored

~If you are submissive to the Biblical picture of marriage, your home is your priority
~Men, need to check in to see if the woman they are pursuing has made the home her priority

~Proverbs 31:10-31
~Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future
~Her household is her priority

~A type of child -> The latch-key child:
~A parent is not around when the child needs them
~Some of those parents have bought the lie that buying the kids stuff would make up for the time that they aren't around
~The kids are sacrificed so that the parent can pursue something else

~There is nothing more honorable and praise worthy then making the family her top priority

~Don't buy into the lie

~The one who created marriage is the one who determines how it works and if we want it to fly then we must do it on his terms

A Song lyric that I just loved from the service where the previous message was preached goes as follows:
"Till I see you face to, and grace amazing takes me home, I'll trust in you"