Voddie uses this expression in his sermons, "If you can't say amen, you outta say ouch". The first time I listened to this sermon it was definitely full of ouch moments. How easy we fall into the worldly view of relationships and what we should want, and completely ignore what the Bible says about love and relationships. Presently my heart is being completely rearranged and changed to follow the ideas of love in the Bible and stop buying into the lies of this pagan type of love.
Ephesians 5:25-33
~ It is required of the husband to be the head of the household
~Men need to lead the household, in the same way that Christ led the church
~It is his responsibility to lead with love
~ God created woman to yurn for a child
~We have bought the lie of the Greco roman myth of romantic love (basically this idea of cupid striking us with an arrow) and we say things like:
~"We don't choose who we fall in love with"
~"This thing is bigger than both of us"
~The heart wants, what it wants"
~We have bought the lie that love is this overwhelming force
~If the Greco roman myth of romantic love is true, then no marriage is safe
~The Bible says "the heart is wicked and not to be trusted"
~This idea of the Greco roman myth of romantic love is so fickle which is why we had to come up with another idea to go along with it.... the idea of "the one"
~The idea of "the one":
~Is unbiblical and has no biblical merit
~This is the reason why we bounce from relationship to relationship, by this overwhelming feeling, hoping that this time we found "the one"
~If we but into the Greco roman myth of romantic love we are hopeless and we will never feel secure enough to marry anyone
~You can never know it objectively
~When problems come along, your immediate thought is I must have married the wrong one
~It is not transferable
~Love is NOT about this overwhelming feeling or force
~Christ is our model for love:
~ Jesus didn't love the church because she was fine, or because she makes him happy. Jesus loved the church because she was the church
~Biblical definition of love:
~Matthew 22
~Deuteronomy 6
~Biblical love is an act of the will, (a choice) accompanied by emotion, that leads to action on behalf of its object
~Relationships with unbelievers:
~2 Corinthians 6:14 ~Do not be bound together with unbelievers
~1 Corinthians 15:33 ~Bad company corrupts good morals
~1 Corinthians 7:39 ~It's assumed that you only marry in the Lord
~You have no business being with a un-believer
~You lead with the will, and you protect yourself and guard yourself from getting involved with someone who doesn't qualify
~As a woman you need to look for a man whose love for you is not based on your ability to satisfy him
~You're looking for a man who understands that his call as a husband, if he has the privilege of marrying you, is to lay down his life for you; not to use you for his own selfish desires
~Until you have found that, you have not found a man worthy to be your husband
~He must lead you in Biblical love
~"You enter into a relationship like this, you start out thinking you got a good deal, it turns into an ordeal, and now you start looking for a new deal" ~Tony Evans
~We have bought into the LIE and we need to stop
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